10 Hard truths about writing

Recently, a student told me she was too scatterbrained to write her novel without help, and that she needed someone to crack the whip, set deadlines, help her focus, etc.  She said she needed an editor or a partner, or both.

This isn’t the first time I’ve heard that sort of thing from writing students. Maybe such people are better suited to journalism, which thrives on deadlines; or writing assigned articles, where the subject matter and the word count are predetermined.  Not easy to get such work these days, of course. I wish I could wave a magic wand and give emerging writers more discipline and focus, or that I had an address book full of the names of editors just waiting to help unpublished writers write their first books, but I can’t, and I don’t.

What I can do is share some hard truths about writing:

  1. Only you can write your book.  Although editors and “first readers” can help you polish the finished product, unless you hire a ghost writer, no one is going to write your book for you.
  2. Discipline is required. If you can’t crack your own whip over your own head and get your butt in front of a keyboard or blank page and learn your craft, focus and stick to it, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year…  well, see 1) above; no one is going to do it for you.
  3. Writers write.  We do it alone, mostly, although writing groups and/or creative writing programs can help us learn craft and give us, sometimes, useful feedback. Writers may talk about writing, they may read about writing, but that’s secondary to their primary activity, which is the actual writing.
  4. Writers read.  I can’t tell you how many students I have who say they want to be writers, but don’t read.  I despair.
  5. There is no magic spell or ritual that will make you into a Real Writer.  People always want to know, “What’s your schedule?”  “What’s your process?”  What they’re asking is, “Tell me the secret..”  Okay, here’s the secret — there’s no secret.  Everyone finds their own way to the page.  There are as many methods and processes as there are writers.  Mine won’t work for you.  Yours won’t work for me. Meditation?  Tea?  Incense?  Candles?  Drawing a chalk circle around your desk and standing on one leg while reciting T.S. Elliot’s The Wasteland? Sure, why not.  Try it.  Try anything, you never know what will work for you.  Ultimately, however, it’s probably easier just to sit down and start typing.
  6. If you write for any reason other than that you love the process of writing, you’ll be miserable.  Writing, the process of forming meaning from your experience in the world, is the only thing you can be sure of.  Everything else – publishing, reader response, critical response, financial success — depends on outside forces beyond your control, no matter how relentlessly and masterfully you self-promote.  If being a writer is going to enhance your life, rather than make you psychotic, then your solace, your comfort, your joy, and your satisfaction must come from what happens when you sit in front of the blank page, not from what happens after you hand your manuscript over to an agent/editor/publisher/printer.
  7. Writing is a lonely business.  Even My Best Beloved, a man as supportive, kind and devoted as any in the history of time, has his own life and responsibilities and interests (as he should) and can’t be expected to sit around gazing at me in adoration while I chase the muse.  I recommend getting a dog.  After decades without one, I’m in the process of finding a rescue dog.  Being in relationship with a dog (or some other critter) is like being in relationship with one’s own soul.  (But that’s another blog, I suspect.)  Anyway, accept the solitude and find a way to deal with it.  Writers are not Nature’s socialites.
  8. Writing is an inky fountain of frustration.  Then again, what worth doing isn’t?  All great passions take patience, perseverance and a love of process.  There are a thousand false starts and dead ends and revisions upon revisions.  There are commas to be put in, and later that day, commas to be taken out again, as Oscar Wilde so famously said.  It can, and often does, take years to write a decent book.  If you don’t like the idea of wrestling with the same angel for a very long (possibly dark) night of the soul, you might be better off doing something else.  But, if the idea of spending years deeply engaged in a single work appeals to you, pick up the pen and begin… and expect to begin again a hundred times before you’re done.

    "Fail Better" Samuel Beckett watching "Waiting for Godot," portrait by Tom Phillips (National Portrait Gallery, London)

    “Fail Better” Samuel Beckett watching “Waiting for Godot,” portrait by Tom Phillips (National Portrait Gallery, London)

  9. Starting a book doesn’t mean you’ll finish it.  I’ve started a dozen books that never made it to a hundred pages, and I’ve started I-don’t-know-how-many short stories that never got finished.  Sure, you need to have enough discipline to stick with a good idea and craft it, shape it and polish it until it’s done, but not every idea pans out.  Sometimes it takes a long time before you realize this.  But, since it’s the practice of writing, rather than the destination of a best-seller list that’s important, who cares? Samuel Beckett said, “Fail again.  Fail better.”  Every paragraph I write is another part of the metaphorical forest of my soul which I’m exploring, and on that map, everything counts, even the little unfinished squiggly bits.
  10. Yes, you have to understand grammar, and punctuation and spelling.  You can fracture the rules for effect, if your work is thus improved, but first you have to know what the rules are and why they exist.  Proper grammar, punctuation, and spelling enables the writer to communicate effectively with the reader.  Butcher syntax accidentally, carelessly, and you are likely to confuse your reader, or make her snort in contempt.  Neither reaction encourages her to continue reading.  Okay, maybe you can make a mistake or two around proper use of “that” vs “which” without making it all a hopeless muddle, but you’d be surprised the damage a misplaced modifier can cause.  For a writer, learning the mechanics of writing is what learning about harmonics, syncopation, and dissonance is for a musician.  Sure, you can play with these concepts, but only when you’ve mastered them can you manipulate them to the create the effects you desire.

Still want to write?  Still think it’s the path for you?  Good.  Then stop fiddling about on the web and get writing!


  1. Cathy on November 5, 2010 at 7:09 am

    Great post, Lauren. I shared it on my Facebook. So inspiring. On that note, time to get off the web and get going on NaNo!

  2. Léna Roy on November 5, 2010 at 7:44 am

    Beautiful. You never fail to remind me why I do what I do!

  3. Mary on November 5, 2010 at 8:17 am

    Very helpful post. Yes, yes, get a rescue dog. My three are my companions through my creative pursuits. They also help me survive living with a teenage girl.

  4. Linda Wisniewski on November 5, 2010 at 10:36 am

    Love, love, love number six. Part of the reason it’s a ‘hard’ truth, IMO, is that I don’t always believe enjoyment of the process is a worthy use of my time. My husband is a potter and thinks nothing of noodling around and making a mess with clay that may never be sold, may even be trashed.

    • Lauren B. Davis on November 5, 2010 at 10:51 am

      Linda, my friend, writer Ken McGoogan, said I should have put #6 in bold! Snort.

  5. Amy Lavender Harris on November 5, 2010 at 12:12 pm

    I’ll share this one, too, Lauren.

  6. Nanette Purcigliotti on November 5, 2010 at 12:28 pm

    Loved your words on this Friday morning. So true. Now I begin.

  7. Rosemary White on November 5, 2010 at 3:11 pm

    Our prof sent us this link (us being her writing students at U of T). Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Would you mind me pointing out a mini typo at the end. ( I would want to know).

    but only when you’ve mastered them can you can only manipulate them to the create the effects you “

    • Lauren B. Davis on November 5, 2010 at 5:46 pm

      Rosemary… thank you SO much for pointing out the typo. I’m rather famous for them, I’m afraid. Tell me, who’s your prof?

  8. Lilian Nattel on November 5, 2010 at 5:52 pm

    Wonderful post, Lauren, and I agree with

  9. lucky 8 on November 5, 2010 at 8:16 pm

    Lauren, what a wonderful post. Bloody brilliant!

  10. kaz on November 5, 2010 at 10:57 pm

    Hi Lauren,

    what a great blog! i’ve just been perusing it after Ken McG. posted yr latest on Facebook and I am impresed/moved/touched by many of the posts i’ve read. inspiring. i would like to blog regularly—ha! in my next life, perhaps?–but you certainly show how it can be done. all best–kc

    • Lauren B. Davis on November 6, 2010 at 6:21 am

      Hi Karen, how lovely of you to comment. Thank you. I hope our paths cross again some day… I think the last time I saw you was at the Winnipeg Thin Air Festival, yes?

  11. JackSol on November 7, 2010 at 5:10 pm

    I have recently begun writing again after a long fallow spell and have started 5 – count ’em, five – short stories, having only got one to the second-draft stage. Do I love the process of writing and the blank page? I am realizing that I do. Writing endings is, for me, 10x as hard as writing anything else, but I figure I may start five more stories and wrestle with them too – because having 10 stories in the middle of everything is better than having no stories anywhere.

    • Lauren B. Davis on November 7, 2010 at 5:21 pm

      JackSol — It’s wonderful you’ve returned to writing. Welcome back! Keep going!

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